Cover It Up – Never Clean It Again.. Hopefully

Origins Tablecloth If you really want to stop scrubbing your table, invest in a few tablecloths.  I personally love Bed Bath & Beyond’s Origin Microfiber Tablecloths.  (No, I am not sponsoring them, I really like them!) Spills don’t soak, they just pearl.  You can shake that bad boy out,  and reuse until it needs a wash, flip on another table cloth and done.  The washing machine will do the scrubbing for you.  We can easily fit the smallest and cheapest one they offer onto our table so I now have 3 of them (one in medium blue, dark blue, and yellow).  Simple and classy.

Resolving Conflicts – Simple is Better

I have been witnessing conflicts all around and even in my own home.  Sometimes they are heated and tricky to handle.

The most common response I see from others in conflicts is shouting and sarcastic remarks made in an effort to preserve one’s dignity and show that they are right.  Have you ever seen or reflected on a conflict you or another has handled in this manner?  The parties involved just go around and around really getting no where and they look ridiculous.

I have so many things to improve on in this area, but I did happen across something that makes a huge difference when involved in a conflict.

1.  Less is more.  Say less than you want.  When someone makes an attack at you, no matter how much you want to say something to prove them wrong, just don’t.  To end a conflict, you first need to stop participating in it.

When I was working at a job where there were a lot of conflicts, sometimes people would try to start a fight with me.  I simply didn’t respond to their sarcastic tones and comments.  This made the conflict very one-sided and they had no ammunition in which to send back my way when I didn’t respond in the way they expected.  They really looked quite silly being so rude when I was being so nice.

2. Treat others the way the Savior did.  No one has suffered more than our Savior.  He was treated much worse than any of us will ever have to experience.  His response was always loving kindness and this is the second part to resolving conflicts.  Perhaps the other party will not drop their arguments, but you will no longer be accountable for the continuation of bad feelings because you will be able to overcome them in this way.

These two simple steps to conflict resolution have really helped me take a different approach to unpleasant situations.  I can choose to remove the stress caused by fighting by choosing to not participate in it.  Of course I am not perfect at this, but when I remember these steps they help me make better choices.

Dear John Your Wastebasket

I have a problem.  I do not like to take out the trash in the bathrooms.  Why does if fill up so fast?  What can we possibly be putting in there that I need to take it out every five days?  Ugh.

When my mom visited and saw that I have the same problem with the kitchen trash, she gave me the answer.  “Sarah, you need a bigger trash can.”  Oh.  Wow. Earth to me!  Duh!… and so on.  Why was I incapable of figuring that out myself?  Mom, I love you.  I will always need you.

So I say, Dear John Your Wastebasket!  If it’s not working for your family any more because you’ve outgrown it, get a bigger one.  Maybe you can find ways to make less trash, that is true.  But I discovered something about myself, and maybe it’s true for you too.  If I try to change my habits all in one day, I don’t get anywhere but frustrated, and I still have to take out the trash!  So, let’s work with what we’ve got right now and try to make changes along the way.

We Can’t Do This Alone.

After looking around and finding that I was horribly behind on putting away the clean laundry, I had a realization that I’m sure you all have already had.  My kids need to help me.

Yes, they are only four and one, but they are perfectly capable of assisting on certain tasks and they actually want to help (about 50% of the time at least).  So, I gave it a try.  I put the one year old next to her drawer and handed her pieces of clothing and showed her what to do.  She caught on quickly and would throw in anything I gave her and that she could reach.  My son insisted on folding the small towels and we all soon had the laundry caught up.  Wow, this was great.

Next I decided to see how they could help me with another chore- putting away the dishes.  Not much for my daughter to do, but my son was perfectly happy to put away the utensils (yay!) and I showed him what goes where.

I feel that if I keep teaching them how to help in as many ways as they can, I will eventually be able to count on them to take over certain chores completely.  I believe that teaching children how to work is an essential part of parenting, and I am not being mean or horrible.  I am teaching them how to take care of themselves and eventually run their own homes.

I want all of my family members to feel good about our home and that we all need to take part in caring for it.  Mom can’t/shouldn’t do it all herself.  Work teaches responsibility and accountability.  “You don’t want to clean up the mess of toys and clothes in the front room?  Then here is how we can prevent this in the future…”